Cecile Osbone in one of his books cited an example of a man and his wife in one of his counseling groups. The man said “something must be done about women, my wife is always pushing my red button just to get a response …she pushed so hard the other day that I finally yelled at her and told her to lay off. She grinned as though I had just given her a bouquet of flowers and said ‘usually I get no feelings out of you…I’ll rather you yell at me than just sit there’...”
Sounds crazy right? Yeah… that’s the extent an ignored woman can go just to make you react! Really, some men could be quiet, passive and uncommunicative to a fault. These attributes combined and taken to the extreme, can drive any averagely expressive woman nuts! Women need to have their feelings validated and accepted. For instance when they express their minds, all they require primarily at that moment is understanding not necessarily solution (very important!).
To get the best in your woman make conscious effort to communicate with her, don't leave her with assumptions!
-Learn to show appreciation (even for little efforts): Unlike a particular age when men were the sole contributors (both financial and material) to relationships, nowadays the bulk is equally shared and believe me in some cases it weighs more on the woman. In a relationship like that, the woman needs to be reminded constantly the she’s appreciated and that the man is not taking her for granted. Appreciation can be shown in various ways but never never underestimate the power of verbal appreciation, never assume she knows you love and appreciate her.
-Do not underestimate the power of togetherness: (Oops! I’m sorry that sounded like a rule) Whether married or single, the only way to get to know yourselves is by spending quality time together, not necessarily ‘discussing serious issues’ that idea I know puts men off, at least I know it puts my husband off. He would rather get into a serious discussion in a relaxed atmosphere than calling him up for ‘a serious discussion’- he once said it makes him feel like being placed on a hot seat (lol)- and believe me it brings up a man’s defenses! For a woman, it's the other way round. It goes beyond the time spent together. It leaves her with unforgettable memories and a sense of togetherness with her man.
Ok! That’s about all for today…more still to come. Did I hear you say women are insatiable?! :)
4 comments:
Quite helpful hints! But i doubt if one can have a full grasp of what women really want.
They seem to be insatiable, though with the exception of a few.
On the contrary, i see women as intresting creatures.Without them life would be boring :)!
please continue your discourse on what a woman wants. I am gaining from it. Thanks
Women.... hmmm, unravel the mystery?! But we're very interesting, but i believe some of us are simpler than others :-)))
Welldone jare, Bisola. Keep up the good work.
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